– Temi Ajibewa Breaks-Up With Her Boyfriend?
– How I Almost Left My Husband – Temi Ajibewa Reveals
I had had enough!
This guy was definitely sent to frustrate my life.
Ahn ahn! Didn’t he see me like this before he married me and now he wants to dull my shine?
God forbid!
I will just have to leave him. Better a divorcee than an unfulfilled married woman.
These were the thoughts that kept me company day and night all through July/August 2018.
My mind was made up. I was leaving my husband. I had told my beloved parents-in-law to stop trying to dissuade me cos I was done with their son.
As I battled on my marriage on one side, I battled with my business on the other side.
I was experiencing an ‘identity crisis’ in my business because I was no longer feeling fulfilled with those I was working with and what I was doing as a business coach. I wanted more but didn’t know how to get it. It seemed I had suddenly lost all sense of purpose doing what I loved.
So I did what I always do when I’m in a jam – I sought out an expert.
The expert I sought was a purpose coach.
Within 30 minutes of carrying out some science-based purpose discovery tests on me, I had my answers.
First, he confirmed to me that I will keep feeling worse if I continued then in the path I was on.
Secondly, he made me understand my core personality as a creative and how I can never find fulfilment doing what usual people do because I was designed to lead, handle multiple huge projects and own a conglomerate as an individual. He gave me examples of people with my kind of personality in the world and I must say I was flattered.
I was overwhelmed with peace as he analysed me based on my past behaviour, tendencies, irritations, and so much more.
To top it all, he shared the profile of the kind of man that is best suited for my personality as a husband and you will not believe it!
Every single item on the list matched my husband!!!
But why didn’t we get along? Why were we always fighting?
He held up the mirror and I saw that I was the problem.
My husband was perfect but I didn’t know myself enough to know what I truly needed in a man.
That day marked a turning point in my life.
First, I called my parents-in-law and apologised for my initial rudeness, then informed them that I think I may have figured out what was really wrong in my marriage and what I could do about it.
I decided to treat my husband the way his personality demanded and that was how my marriage was saved.
Oh yes, we still have our fights (dangerously heated fights sometimes) but now, I understand him and he understands me a lot better, and no one is leaving anyone. Lol.
In my business, I was able to shut my eyes to the niche I was focused on before and allowed myself to move on to working with smart and upwardly mobile individuals who want more out of life and here we are today – I am now a business coach for thought leaders, experts and coaches.
All because I decided to seek an expert and get to know myself better.
If there is any weapon you can use to face any mental battle squarely, it is SELF-AWARENESS.
Investing in knowing and developing yourself is one of the best things you can do yourself.
This is why I put this at the very beginning of all my coaching programs because if you don’t know you, how can you help you?
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